This week, I made an appointment to see the family therapist (for new readers, click here to see how it all started ) as it been over two months since I had seen her last. Where does the time go? In case you are wondering for those who have been following me for awhile as to why I continue seeing a therapist, I still like going to Dr. M. for the simple fact that she offers supportive, non- judgmental voice of reason that my family doesn’t. Let’s face it, who wants to be constantly judged and confronted over your parenting skills under the guise that they are providing “helpful advice.” Uh, not me.
I am not so delusional that I am a perfect parent, far from it hence the family therapist but it would be nice to hear that you are doing a great job as a parent from your family versus alway being judged. But I digress. And again Dr. M. provides advice and parenting tips that I need to hear and be reinforced and yes, she tells me that I am good parent.
As it had been two months, so much stuff has happened and not all of it good. Being a single mom is like being the Chef, cook and bottle washer, it’s all you, all the time with no help and it’s get a tad tiring, stressful, both mentally and physically.
Dr. M and I have been talking about my going on a mini solo vacation for over a year but I just haven’t found the time to do it. I am sure that there are some who think this concept is nuts or self indulgent but I would disagree. Frankly, I am not sure I get couples who never take time away for themselves. Again, I digress.
So the interim compromise is that she suggested going for a massage. And I am going this week come hell or high water. It is my intention to relax and try to have my mind go black for 75 long minutes.
Next I am going to try (operative try) to figure out a weekend I can go away.
I think it’s an excellent idea. You most certainly deserve it…the massage and the vacation. I hope you get a chance for a weekend away. I don’t think its self-indulgent, I think its a way to recharge and keep being an awesome mom. In a way you are doing it to be there for your daughter. {hugs}
A solo vacation is just what I’ve been planning “in my mind” so I can let go of the stress of working from home with a 2 year old and rarely getting alone time with my husband.
He thinks our son is too young for us to go away together – so I can go and he can stay.
I think going for a massage is such an excellent idea, and probably less guilt-ridden than you probably feel about going on a solo vacation, although I do agree with your therapist that you should definitely go on one. I love my alone time; it’s an immensely peaceful, inspiring, and creative time for me, and without it, I wouldn’t be me anymore. I hope you find the time and the inspiration to take that vacation, and have a fantastic massage!